We are excited to partner with Julie, a local writer, and new mom, for this week’s post! Julie writes a lifestyle blog, A Hopeful Hood, and has learned firsthand that maternity clothes are cuter than some of the regular clothes out there and there’s nothing like a good donut at 3 am. She loves hiking, all the things from Target’s $1-$5 section, and movies that make you laugh.

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Thanks for writing for us, Julie!


I was the first of all my friends to get pregnant, which means that the only advice I got came from the generation that was pregnant 25+ years ago (my mom) and Google. While those two sources can be full of wise gems, I would have loved to hear from someone I knew and who very recently remembered what it was like to have 2 little lines show up on a pee-soaked stick.

So, from one girlfriend to another, here’s what I needed to hear:

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1. It’s ok when you go from “OMG THIS IS TERRIFYING” to “I CAN DO THIS!”.

When I found out I was pregnant, I was in a dazed state of “is this REAL???” for like a week.

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2. Keep snacks by your bedside for when you wake up at 2 am STARVING.

Whether a quick snack like granola bars or a full on peanut butter & jelly sandwich, have it ready. Don’t make your pregnant self walk all the way to the kitchen for sustenance. (This is also true if you nurse! I woke up famished all the time when nursing a new baby.)

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3. Plan the fastest route to……..Dunkin Donuts.

Not the hospital, Dunks. The one near us is open 4 am to midnight, which means WHEN YOU WANT THE DONUTS YOU CAN GET THE DONUTS. 🙂

 

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4. Life will change, but change isn’t always bad.

My belly got so big that it felt like my stomach-skin was going to rip. (Super cute, right?) That kind of change isn’t as fun. But embrace this new season because you get 9 months to emotionally prepare yourself to grow in such a rich, deep way. Having a baby made me more compassionate, it made me think things through (since my decisions don’t just affect me! I’ve got a little person to think about now!), and it gave me more perspective (since life isn’t all about ME ME ME).

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5. Pregnancy yoga is super difficult.

It looks easy when that fit lady with a perfect bump bends and stretches and balances in that youtube video. BUT IT IS NOT THAT EASY. I did it twice. And then I consoled my not-flexible self with snacks. 🙂

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6. Rely on people around you.

This takes some vulnerability. When I was teaching while pregnant, it meant that I let people help me carry textbooks or my teacher bag. I hate looking weak, so accepting help really took effort. This also applies to emotional stuff. When you feel overwhelmed, have a friend or family member to reach out to. Or, head to the grocery store and talk things over with the super-chatty old ladies in the cereal aisle.


If for some miracle of stretchable ligaments you are able to do pregnancy yoga, I am both elated for you and do not want to hear about it. However, I’m cheering you on in this new adventure (pregnancy. Not the yoga thing. But yoga, too, is a real adventure). And may you give yourself lots of grace and room to grow in this journey!

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