We are excited to partner with Julie, a local writer, and new mom, for this week’s post! Julie writes a lifestyle blog, A Hopeful Hood, and has learned firsthand that maternity clothes are cuter than some of the regular clothes out there and there’s nothing like a good donut at 3 am. She loves hiking, all the things from Target’s $1-$5 section, and movies that make you laugh.


Thanks for writing for us, Julie!

I was the first of all my friends to get pregnant, which means that the only advice I got came from the generation that was pregnant 25+ years ago (my mom) and Google. While those two sources can be full of wise gems, I would have loved to hear from someone I knew and who very recently remembered what it was like to have 2 little lines show up on a pee-soaked stick.

So, from one girlfriend to another, here’s what I needed to hear:


1. It’s ok when you go from “OMG THIS IS TERRIFYING” to “I CAN DO THIS!”.

When I found out I was pregnant, I was in a dazed state of “is this REAL???” for like a week.


2. Keep snacks by your bedside for when you wake up at 2 am STARVING.

Whether a quick snack like granola bars or a full on peanut butter & jelly sandwich, have it ready. Don’t make your pregnant self walk all the way to the kitchen for sustenance. (This is also true if you nurse! I woke up famished all the time when nursing a new baby.)


3. Plan the fastest route to……..Dunkin Donuts.

Not the hospital, Dunks. The one near us is open 4 am to midnight, which means WHEN YOU WANT THE DONUTS YOU CAN GET THE DONUTS. 🙂



4. Life will change, but change isn’t always bad.

My belly got so big that it felt like my stomach-skin was going to rip. (Super cute, right?) That kind of change isn’t as fun. But embrace this new season because you get 9 months to emotionally prepare yourself to grow in such a rich, deep way. Having a baby made me more compassionate, it made me think things through (since my decisions don’t just affect me! I’ve got a little person to think about now!), and it gave me more perspective (since life isn’t all about ME ME ME).


5. Pregnancy yoga is super difficult.

It looks easy when that fit lady with a perfect bump bends and stretches and balances in that youtube video. BUT IT IS NOT THAT EASY. I did it twice. And then I consoled my not-flexible self with snacks. 🙂


6. Rely on people around you.

This takes some vulnerability. When I was teaching while pregnant, it meant that I let people help me carry textbooks or my teacher bag. I hate looking weak, so accepting help really took effort. This also applies to emotional stuff. When you feel overwhelmed, have a friend or family member to reach out to. Or, head to the grocery store and talk things over with the super-chatty old ladies in the cereal aisle.

If for some miracle of stretchable ligaments you are able to do pregnancy yoga, I am both elated for you and do not want to hear about it. However, I’m cheering you on in this new adventure (pregnancy. Not the yoga thing. But yoga, too, is a real adventure). And may you give yourself lots of grace and room to grow in this journey!