Last post we talked about what happens in your brain during sex. If you missed it check it out here.

So now we know that hormones and chemicals released during the brain create trust and connection.

But what happens when that trust and connection is broken?  And what happens if it is broken repeatedly? 

Our brain is made up of neural synapses, all connected.  They are subject to a process called neural pruning. This means that the connections that are used the most are strengthened, and the ones that are used less frequently become weaker.   This process “molds” our brain, causes patterns and habits in our way of thinking.

Brain molding that comes from incomplete and unhealthy attachment can be a threat to overall health. We know that hormones signaling the brain to attach, bond and connect are released during sex.  When we are frequently breaking those bonds by having sex with someone new, the part of our brain that allows us to trust, connect and attach with others can become weaker, and new patterns and pathways can form. 

Being able to form social bonds and attachments is necessary to leading a healthy life. It increases security and reduces stress and anxiety.

The more sexual partners we have, the more that innate ability to attach is threatened. Sex was designed as a way to connect and bond with someone you love.  Frequent breaking of those bonds can have future consequences on how we connect and attach to people.

The great thing is that it’s never too late to take control of your life, and make it what YOU want it to be.  If you’d like to talk with someone about your sexual health goals, please call us at 215.855.2424 for a confidential appointment. We care about your physical, mental AND emotional health and are here for YOU!


McIlhaney, Joe S., Bush, Freda McKissic. (2008). Hooked. Chicago, IL: Northfield Publishing.