The topic of adoption can be confusing.  There are a lot of different options and types of adoption, and many misconceptions about the process.  Especially if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, you may have a lot of questions about the possibility of adoption. Check out this list of common questions expectant mother’s have about adoption.

  1. How can adoption be a good choice for me?

    If you’re not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby a good life by choosing adoption. Circumstances such as unstable family situations, or financial issues may make it difficult or impossible to parent.  There are many agencies available to make sure you have a successful adoption process.

  2. Can I choose the family for my baby?

    Yes, of course. Most agencies have many prospective adoptive couples available. These couples have gone through training, interviews, approvals and home inspections to ensure that they will be great parents. You might also want to choose a friend or someone who has been recommended to you.

  3. How much contact can I have with my baby after the birth and after adoption?

    You can spend as much time as you want after their birth. When you are planning your child’s adoption, you can choose an open adoption plan that includes ongoing visits, or you can choose a less open adoption that keeps you informed through letters and

  4. How soon after birth will my baby go to the parents I choose?

    The timing of your child’s placement depends on your preference, legal aspects, and the role of the birthfather. Many mothers want their baby placed with the adoptive family directly from the hospital, while others may choose interim care while they consider their adoption decision.

  5. How much will my child know about me?

    Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide social and medical history for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you directly as well.

  6. Does the baby’s father have any rights?

    Both you and your baby’s father have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, your agency will work with him and/or the courts to determine his rights.

  7. Can my child find me if he or she wants to search someday?

    Searching may only be necessary if there has not been ongoing contact. The law in your state determines when and how your child may access the information in the adoption file.

  8. How can I be sure that my child will be well cared for?

    There are standards that every prospective adoptive family must meet that are set by both the agency and the state where they live. Families are thoroughly assessed before being approved for adoption, and an adoption specialist will make visits to the adoptive family after placement to ensure your child’s wellbeing.

  9. Do I need an attorney, or do I pay my agency to assist me with the adoption?

    In many states, you will not need an attorney, and most agencies provide services to you at no cost. If you do need an attorney, those costs are paid by the adoptive family.

  10. Can I get help with medical and living expenses while making an adoption plan?

    Assistance with medical and living expenses is available.

If you would like more information about adoption, contact us at 215.855.2424.  We can give you a list of several credible agencies to choose from, whom you can contact for more detailed answers to your specific questions.

*Please note: North Care Women’s Clinic is not an adoption agency.

Adapted from:
10 Questions Expectant Moms Might Ask About Adoption. Bethany Christian Services. 2016. Retrieved from